ANGELS CAVAN FAMILY SUPPORT GROUP

20 QUESTIONS

Ask yourself the following questions and answer them as honestly as you can:

1. Do you find yourself making excuses, lying or covering up for the addict in your life?

2. Do you have reason not to trust the addict in your life?

3. Is it becoming difficult for you to believe his/her explanations?

4. Do you lie awake worrying about the addict in your life?

5. Is this person missing school often without your knowledge?

6. Is this person missing work and the bills piling up?

7. Are the savings mysteriously missing?

8. Are the unanswered questions causing hostility and undermining your relationship or marriage?

9. Are you asking yourself "What's wrong"? and "Is it my fault"?

10. Are your suspicions turning you into a detective and are you afraid of what you might find out?

11. Are normal family disagreements becoming hostile and violent?

12. Are you cancelling social functions with vague excuses?

13. Are you becoming increasingly reluctant to invite friends to your home?

14. Is concern for your spouse, child or friend causing you headaches, a knotty stomach and extreme anxiety?

15. Is your spouse, child or friend easily irritated by minute matters?  Does your whole life seem a nightmare?

16. Are you unable to discuss the situation with friends or relatives because of the embarrassment?

17. Are your attempt at control, frustrating?

18. Do you over compensate and try not to make waves?

19. Do you keep trying to make things better and nothing helps?

20. Is the lifestyle of this person changing? Do you ever think they might be using drugs?

If you have answered YES to four or more of these questions, FAMILY SUPPORT may be able to give you the answers you are looking for.

Join Our Group

If you are interested in joining our Group or wish to find out more, PLEASE contact Gwen on 087 1357103.  Support for YOURSELF can help the whole family.

A Parent's Story

“I did not know where to turn to when I found out my son had a drug addiction.  I felt helpless about my situation, I was unhappy, I cried alone, no-one understood and I was heartbroken when things went from bad to worse.  A friend told me about Family Support and I went along with her to my first meeting.  I have not looked back and look forward to Monday evenings.

I learnt that addiction is an illness, and that I was powerless over it; I learnt about the twelve step programme – a set of guidelines which can bring solution to practically any problem; I learnt how to mind myself and to stop trying to control my son’s behaviour.  I was given information on where my son can go for treatment when he is ready. I went on a respite week to Kilkenny where I made new friends from all over the country, who are in similar situations.  This would never have happened without me joining ANGELS Cavan Family Support.  The Cavan group is fabulous, without the rest of the group, I would not be half the person I am today.   I would urge parents of users to join Family Support, as support for yourself can help the whole family. “ 

ANGELS member

Who we are.....

WHAT IS FAMILY SUPPORT?

Family Support is where family members of those using drugs/alcohol can come together to talk about how they have been affected.